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stfurapeculture:

anon asked:

your thoughts on the chris brown & rihanna songs that have just come out?

If you care about rape culture and supporting survivors, you do not judge any survivor for the way they handle their abuse. That’s just how it is. So my thoughts are that Rihanna was a victim of a very serious assault, and however she wishes to deal with her abuser is her own business.

I know from personal experience how difficult it can be to get out of an abusive relationship. It is easy to stand on the outside and wonder how people can forgive their abusers, how they can go back to them time and time again. It is never as simple as it looks. Being abused by a loved one does not automatically erase your love for them, even if it seems like it should. Some people forgive. Some people go back to their abuser. It’s very, very complicated. No one has the right to judge how a survivor handles themselves or their relationship with their abuser.

While I would love to see every abuse survivor make a clean break with their abuser (and their abuser dragged through the mud and prosecuted), that is not the reality for everyone. Rihanna doesn’t owe anything to anyone in regards to how she handles this.

With regard to the songs, I don’t like them. Well, I don’t like any of his anyway. But I don’t like this one of hers because it makes me uncomfortable to hear. We the public don’t have to forgive Chris Brown if Rihanna does. But it’s not appropriate to cast aspersions on Rihanna because she doesn’t handle things the way we might like.

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